Being “Too Much” Is Exactly What Will Take You Where You’re Meant to Go
- Priya Khaitan
- 4 days ago
- 2 min read
Dear Daughter,
One day, you will stop trying so hard to be liked.
You will stop shrinking, softening, and smoothing your edges just to fit in.
And when that day comes, some people won’t know what to do with you anymore.
You’ll speak a little louder.
Stand a little taller.
Say what you mean with a confidence that surprises even you.
And suddenly, you’ll hear it:
“You’re too much.”
Too confident.
Too ambitious.
Too emotional.
Too intense.
Too focused.
But here’s the truth I want you to know deep in your bones:
You were never “too much.”
You were just too real for people who were comfortable staying small.
When people feel threatened, they label you.
They call you “too much” when you stop shrinking yourself to manage their insecurities.
They say you’ve “changed” when you grow in ways they aren’t ready to.
They whisper when your strength reminds them of their own unfulfilled dreams.
Growth makes others uncomfortable.
But discomfort is their work — not yours.
Your intensity is a gift, not a flaw.
Your big dreams?
They need passion.
Your goals?
They need focus.
Your boundaries?
They need courage.
And your future?
It needs a girl who takes up space.
Never confuse your light for something you should dim.
Never apologise for wanting more than the bare minimum.
Never let the world convince you that gentleness and ambition can’t live in the same girl.
They can.
They do.
They already live in you.
You don’t need to tone yourself down — you need to step into yourself.
Be the girl who studies when others are distracted.
Who walks away from noise that steals her peace.
Who stands up when silence feels safer.
Who protects her energy like it’s sacred.
Be the girl who is “too much” —
too focused, too passionate, too driven, too alive.
Because that girl?
She gets things done.
She builds her own path.
She becomes the woman she once hoped to meet.
And if your strength scares people… let it.
Their discomfort doesn’t mean you need to soften.
It means they need to rise.
Your responsibility is not to make others comfortable.
Your responsibility is to your vision, your voice, your peace.
One day, your future self will look back and whisper:
“Thank you for choosing courage over approval.”
If being “too much” is what it takes to become extraordinary,
then be too much.
Unapologetically, wholeheartedly, joyfully.
Not for them — but for you.**
With all my love,
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